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Pray About Everything.
Pray About Everything.And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests. With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all the saints. Ephesians 6:18 (NIV) Pray before you correct others. … Continue reading
Reaffirming Your Spouse
Here is a practical suggestion for what to do when you and your spouse are tempted to become very angry with each other: Change your focus by repeating the following affirmations to yourself: “Hey, wait a minute, this is the … Continue reading
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Character and Communication
Constant communication reduces conflict. Character is the key to communication. Learn to prevent conflict and de-stress your relationship by developing attitudes that make it easy for your spouse to talk with you about anything. Preventing conflicts is easier than solving … Continue reading
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What do I do when times get tense?
When times get tense, make positive affirmations to yourself about your spouse. Keep a well of remembrance in your heart. This is a deep channel of stored memories–memories of all the good things that you can remember your spouse doing … Continue reading
The 5 Deadly D’s
Here are some practical ways to avert catastrophic moments: Avoid the 5 Deadly D’s that lead to destructive conversations: Dumping: Throwing all of your emotions onto your spouse. Debating: Trying to win an argument instead of seeking mutual understanding. Denial: … Continue reading
A.R.M.S and Trust
Whatever happens, refuse to take up A.R.M.S (Anger, Rage, Malice, and Slander) in your own defense. Control yourself. Your partner needs to feel secure before he or she can confide in you.
C.A.L.M
When you get tense or angry, take responsibility for your behavior. Work hard to stay C.A.L.M by taking the following steps: Consider, Ask, Limit, Monitor. Consider the potential for destructiveness before you speak during tense moments. Remember the wrecks–the conversations … Continue reading
Wait and Meditate
Honor what you have heard by asking for time to think deeply about it. Too often, we use listening as a technique, but our insincerity shows up quickly in our prepackaged prescriptions. We offer solutions without understanding the problems. This … Continue reading
Ask Effective Questions to Get the Right Answers
Effective listening to your spouse demands more than silent attention. It requires actively engaging him or her by asking questions for clarification. “Just now when you said that… were you trying to say…?” “I don’t mean to interrupt you, but … Continue reading
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How to listen to your spouse
Give each other full and undivided attention. Listening is more han hearing and trying to prepare a response. Sometimes, we are too busy waiting for our turn to talk, or preparing a legal brief in our minds that will prove … Continue reading
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