Rule Number One
Avoid Destructive Arguments: when you are tempted to fight, pray with all your might!
“Starting a quarrel is like breaching a dam; so drop the matter before a dispute breaks out.”
(Proverbs 17:14) (NIV)
“A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.”
(Proverbs 15:1) (KJV)
You can’t–and shouldn’t–avoid conflicts. But you can–and must–avoid fights. Conflicts are simply disagreements that produce tension within the relationship. Fights are angry verbal or physical exchanges that result from unresolved conflicts. While conflicts can become constructive, fights are always destructive. How can you avoid destructive arguments? The first step is to defuse anger. A “soft answer” is a wise, humble response that immediately reduces potentially explosive tension. But its wisdom and humility come only through prayer and obedience. So learn to pray first, and learn to pray fast. Nothing ameliorates conflicts more quickly than immediate prayer for yourself and your spouse.