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What do I do when times get tense?
When times get tense, make positive affirmations to yourself about your spouse. Keep a well of remembrance in your heart. This is a deep channel of stored memories–memories of all the good things that you can remember your spouse doing … Continue reading
The 5 Deadly D’s
Here are some practical ways to avert catastrophic moments: Avoid the 5 Deadly D’s that lead to destructive conversations: Dumping: Throwing all of your emotions onto your spouse. Debating: Trying to win an argument instead of seeking mutual understanding. Denial: … Continue reading
A.R.M.S and Trust
Whatever happens, refuse to take up A.R.M.S (Anger, Rage, Malice, and Slander) in your own defense. Control yourself. Your partner needs to feel secure before he or she can confide in you.
Wait and Meditate
Honor what you have heard by asking for time to think deeply about it. Too often, we use listening as a technique, but our insincerity shows up quickly in our prepackaged prescriptions. We offer solutions without understanding the problems. This … Continue reading
Ask Effective Questions to Get the Right Answers
Effective listening to your spouse demands more than silent attention. It requires actively engaging him or her by asking questions for clarification. “Just now when you said that… were you trying to say…?” “I don’t mean to interrupt you, but … Continue reading
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How to listen to your spouse
Give each other full and undivided attention. Listening is more han hearing and trying to prepare a response. Sometimes, we are too busy waiting for our turn to talk, or preparing a legal brief in our minds that will prove … Continue reading
Listen and Learn
Love listens. Tell your spouse this: “I love you, so I want to try hard to understand your needs and desires. I really want to know what’s important to you so that it can become as important to me.”
Love and Listen
Love begins with listening. Until you are willing to listen, no one will confide in you; so learn to listen with your heart and head. The Bible emphasizes listening for the sake of understanding. Solomon defines listening as the skill … Continue reading
Prevent Conflicts by De-stressing Your Spouse
Stress causes conflict, and conflict causes stress. Both spouses should work on de-stressing, instead of distressing, each other. Distressed spouses are always “on the edge.” Everything–no matter how small–can become a source of argument or conflict. So learn to de-stress … Continue reading
Use these conversation starters to promote love, communication, and mutual understanding.
I know that I must have forgotten to do something important this week with you, or for you, but don’t hold it against me. I really want to improve the way I love you. Could you tell me what it … Continue reading
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